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Focus on Charoite:
The Fear Finder

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Fear can have a major effect on the kinds of decisions we make, especially when it guides us away from making a decision involving risk. Fear separates us from a full appreciation and experiencing of life. Look for those areas in which you feel limited or unable to move forward, and you will find a fear blocking you.

Charoite, a purple stone with black and white patterns, relates to the sixth chakra, where many of our limiting mental programs, including our fears, are stored. The color purple, among its other roles, helps to bring us closer to spirit by showing us that everything, even the thoughts we hold as true, can be dissolved and replaced with more empowering energies. It can help us realize that fear, like other automatic reactions, is a learned response.

A parent might teach a child that it's dangerous to cross the street by herself. That's a reasonable fear, but if that person, as an adult, is still afraid to cross a street, the fear becomes irrational. In symbolic terms, when all the changes we want to make in our lives are across the street, such fears are disempowering.

The black in charoite grounds the purple ray and enables us to explore. When we can look at fear without emotional involvement, it often begins to lose its power. White, which represents the connection to spirit, helps to dissolve fear's grip.

Charoite helps to bring fear to the surface. It makes this process easier by also giving you a boost of courage and commitment to dissolve fear patterns.

Also, charoite can help you to discern those fears that are false and those that are true warnings from intuitive knowing. Many years ago I took a seminar on activating mental powers. The instructor discussed putting white light around a cab if you didn't feel safe. She said, "Put white light around the cab three times. If you still don't feel safe, tell the driver to pull over and get out."

If you feel fearful, whether it's about walking down a certain street or about taking a certain route in your life, it's best not to automatically dismiss it. Instead, determine the source of the fear.

Unknown and Known Fears

Charoite addresses both kinds of fear.

Known fears include fear of spiders, bears, being alone in the woods, flying, driving, leaving a familiar location or job, of not having enough money, or getting sick. In general, they are tangible, as opposed to vague.

Unknown fears are typically vague. Some people are afraid of going to sleep because they fear being in an unknown state or they're afraid of nightmares. Religious or spiritual fears relate to the unknown, especially when people have fears of opening up to their own spiritual energies.

Any fear you can't concretely identify could be considered an unknown fear. As noted above, such fears may be messages from the intuitive self.

Meditating with Charoite

You can place it on the third eye or hold it. I also recommend placing rhodochrosite on the solar plexus area to assist in deep breathing, an important way to become relaxed.

Since physical tension helps keep fear in place, relaxation is key in dissolving it. Focus on slow, deep breathing. Feel your breath traveling from your feet to your head and back. Breathe slowly and deliberately into parts of your body that feel particularly tense.

You can also enhance the feeling of relaxation by doing the following:

  1. Hold or place by your feet one of the grounding stones: hematite, smoky quartz, tiger's eye, black tourmaline. Obsidian is not always reassuring, so I haven't included it here.
  2. Take Rescue Remedy prior to meditating.
  3. Remind yourself that the fear is a temporary feeling you're bringing up for release.

Unknown Fears

I've found that the best approach with unknown fears is to focus on the idea that fear is a messenger telling you to connect to your deeper, wiser self. That deeper self is telling you that if you connect with it directly, you can transcend fear.

Ask for a message. You may not receive it right away. It may come in a dream or later on, while you're doing something else. The important thing is to let your inner self know you're ready to know. You may want to affirm that you're ready to open to your intuition.

Something this readiness comes in stages. It is rare that one goes from fear of intuition to complete acceptance of information from the inner self in one meditational experience. Allow yourself stages.

You might be ready for a small message, one that confirms the wisdom of your intuition. The next time you might be ready for a bigger message. Gradual openings aren't as exciting as instant transformation, but they're much better for the psyche and body.

Known Fears

Sometimes an unknown fear falls away to reveal a known fear you were trying to hide from yourself, for example, you might feel uneasy about making a geographical move, without knowing why. After meditating perhaps several times, you may discover some material reasons for this fear. This then becomes a known fear.

I find it helpful to break known fear down into various elements. Taking the moving example, these might be: "If I move across the country, I'll lose all my friends and security. I might not find a house as nice as the one I have. I don't feel safe because I'm not familiar with the area."

Address each fear individually; this gives each less impact. In the area of friendship, for example, you might imagine yourself meeting new friends. You might come up with ideas for meeting people before moving. (With the Internet, all things are possible.)

In the beginning, fear may be stronger than excitement. Find one good thing about the place you are considering moving to. Maybe the weather is better, the price of housing lower. Give your attention to that one good thing. Once you feel positive about that, move on to another good thing. You can't force fear to disappear; it's a survival mechanism that will resist all efforts at force. Instead, reassure it by telling it you understand and appreciate its attempt to protect you.

When you meditate with charoite, it's often a good idea to allow time afterwards to contemplate and incorporate what you've learned.

Helpful Flower Essences

Aspen and Mimulus, both Bach Flower Remedies, can be very helpful in fear-based issues. Aspen relates to unknown fears; while Mimulus is used for known ones.

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