For Emotional Balance

O Lady Moon, your horns point toward the east;
Shine, be increased:
O Lady Moon, your horns point toward the west;
Wane, be at rest.
From Sing-Song by Christina Rossetti

As the transitions of the seasons remind us of the life's great transitions, so the changes of the moon remind us of the changes constantly taking place within ourselves. The moon varies, not only in the phases of its cycle, but in its interaction with the earth.

A full moon shining on snow casts blue shadows and silvers the trees. It may remind us of the starkness of emotions unclouded, unburied. A harvest moon seems to absorb the red, gold, and orange of autumn leaves and fill the fading grass with its glow, reminding us that emotions can comfort and warm us and give us a feeling of richness.

Sometimes the moon passes behind clouds, its disappearance and reappearance creating a subtle light shows. Negative emotions, too, may be fleeting, if we can only wait them out and allow them to be.

Beloved of the Moon

The changeable beauty of the moon is found in the stone named for it, moonstone. In India, moonstone is called chandrakant, meaning "beloved by the moon." (from the Sanskrit chandra, "moon" and kanta, "beloved") Moonstone, in Hindu mythology, is believed to have formed from moonlight.

Moonstone, like the moon, comes in a variety of hues. It can be milky, rainbow, blue, gray, or tan. Blue, rainbow, and very clear moonstones radiate a magical play of light when they're moved around. Gemologists call this adularescence (adularia is another name for moonstone).

Part of the magic of moonstone is that even those stones that don't look as dramatic may, when rotated about, show a surprising emergence of color.

Emotional Balance

A primary function of moonstone is to help us achieve emotional balance. Balance, however, doesn't mean non-movement.

Sometimes people, weary of emotional turbulence, long for their emotions to stay put. If they ever got what they supposedly wanted, though, they'd be bored out of their minds. As the moon teaches us, our emotions wax and wane. Moonstone helps us, not to suppress, but to allow and to flow with our emotions.

Think of how you feel when you have an emotion you don't want. You don't like someone. You're angry at yourself. You feel guilty.

Our first reaction is usually to try to deny any emotion that doesn't fit in with our ideas about who we are. Denial, however, doesn't dissolve emotion. When we fight it, it fights back, not because it's determined to destroy us, but because it has a message to deliver.

That message is that we've gotten disconnected from our deeper sense of self--not who we think we should be but who we really are. When we listen to that warning, we changes our thoughts and behavior. When we try to suppress that warning voice, we persist in our negativity and get further away from our true selves.

If, for example, you feel negative about an individual, that feeling tells you you're giving your focus in a way that doesn't serve you. It tells you, "Do/think something else."

I find that the most helpful thing to do is to ask myself what in this person reminds me of traits I don't like about myself. Then I do whatever I need to do to accept that aspect of myself. This restores me to my true self, and the other person becomes an non-issue.

Fear of Positive Emotions

I've focused so far on negative emotions, but people often don't trust their positive emotions, either, feeling that if they get too happy, some negative force is sure to be attracted to their good vibrations and attempt to ruin them. This may be called " nothing good ever lasts," "waiting for the other shoe to drop", or "they're just waiting for me to let down my guard before they strike."

Finally, many people mistrust any strong emotion. They've been raised to believe that there's something rude, immature, or possibly even insane about "excessive" emotion.

This kind of resistance to emotion is often associated with men, and men are more likely to be trained in this kind of resistance to emotion, but it's not gender exclusive. Overall, emotion, along with intuition (to which it's related) get a bad in any society that professes to worship reason.

Emotional Release

Moonstone can help us to come free of any self-destructive cycle or pattern regarding emotions, easing us into greater receptivity. Wearing and/or playing with moonstone regularly can help us to fine-tune and become more aware of our emotions before they freeze into negative patterns.

Ways to Play

Wearing Moonstone

By far the easiest way to benefit from moonstone is to wear it: in a pendant, necklace, earrings, or ring. Pendants are my favorite, and I like them to rest over the heart, but they can be equally beneficial at the throat level, where many emotions are stored.

My favorite pendant is a large rainbow moonstone cabochon ringed with raspberry garnet stones. Periodically, throughout the day, I hold it and move it to experience the radiance of its flash, especially if I'm feeling especially stuck in an emotion.

When you wear a moonstone, you need to be fairly rigorous about clearing it of any negative emotion. (If you have a really nice one, people will want to hold it, which may add to the emotional overload.)

I don't like to clear jewelry in water of any kind, and I don't bury jewelry in salt, as this may scratch it. This leaves me with various choices.

  1. I used to place pendants on large quartz or black tourmaline clusters. Quartz is a great cleanser; while black tourmaline deflects negativity. However, since I have cats who love crystals and especially like to move them around (I recently found a small quartz cluster that lived on an altar on top of a table in the living on the floor of the dining room), I abandoned this method.
  2. I recommend smudging a piece of jewelry. Simply light a smudge stick (preferably cedar and sage or cedar, sage, and lavender), get a good, thick smoke going, and hold your piece of jewelry in the smoke. Hold it in the smoke for about a minute.

Carrying Moonstone

This is another nice choice (although pockets always need to be examine before garments get put into the washing machine). It may also be a good idea to keep a moonstone in a convenient location in your car, to be held during particularly long red lights, etc.

Moonstone, along with rose quartz, can be beneficial in many interpersonal situations.

  1. It's recommended for any health care personnel who may feel they need to suppress their emotional response to suffering in order to function responsibly. In such situations, moonstone can keep their emotions in balance without making them inaccessible.

  2. I found moonstone helpful in employer-employee interactions. It would help me be able to respond to the feelings my employees wanted to express without feeling defensive. (Since we all worked in a crystal store, I had them hold moonstone, too.)

  3. In the East, moonstone has a strong connection with love, the most powerful and positive emotion. It's believed that wearing or carrying a moonstone will help to bring a new love into your life. It's also believed that if lovers hold moonstone over their hearts after a quarrel, then exchange the pieces with each other, their love and their relationship will continue.

Moonstone and Meditation

Because the solar plexus is where emotions tend to be stored, this is a logical placement for moonstone, as is the heart. These aren't the only areas where moonstone can be placed, however.

By the time imbalances reach the emotional level, they're fairly well developed. As we become more deeply attuned to our vibrational states, we can sense imbalances at the pre-emotional level. (This, by the way, is how I classify feelings, as a vibrational state that precedes the emotional state that can be given a name.)

Thus, moonstone can be put on any chakra area that seems to be out of balance. One of the first places I would consider would be the pelvic area, which also relates to emotions and flow.

(Although we don't make recommendations for physical conditions, many women have reported that placing moonstone on the pelvic area has helped to alleviate PMS.)

In meditating for emotional balance, you may find it helpful to focus on deep breathing. The more deeply one breathes, the more one feels--which is why many people don't do it.

For more information on this, see an article on the solar plexus and breathing. I usually recommend that rhodochrosite be placed on the solar plexus for a focus on breathing. This could be combined with a moonstone on the heart area.

You can also meditate with moonstone for deeper spiritual awareness. For this, I recommend placing it on either the third eye or the crown chakra areas.

In meditating, you may also want to visualize peaceful scenes from nature involving the moon. You might want to search on Google or at for images you especially like and print them out.

Being the Moon

Moonstone helps us to allow our emotions to express who we are, in the fullness of being. The poet W. B. Yeats expressed this in a verse from "He and She," a section of Supernatural Songs:

"She sings as the moon sings:
'I am I, am I;
The greater grows my light
The further that I fly.'
All creation shivers
With that sweet cry."

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