One of the greatest obstacles to our fully surrendering judgment, dislike, anger, and other negative emotions is that there are just too many times when they seem to feel good.
You will probably not be surprised to learn that depression, fear, and other negative emotions have equally harmful repercussions. These results are specific and measurable enough to make medical professionals take this issue seriously. They're realizing what people aware of the mind-body connection and subtle energy have known for a long time.
In energetic terms, visualize your connection to source energy--called by many unconditional, unlimited love, as a stream. Ideally, this stream flows unobstructed, and we constantly receive healing, beneficial energy that feels good. If, however, we focus enough on negativity, we create energetic debris that resists the force of the flow. This weakens the positive energy's force.
In the case of a physical stream with blockages, we notice that the water is slow-moving, sluggish. Our initial indication that the stream of positive source energy is blocked is a feeling of negativity. Thus, negative energy not only creates the blockage, but its obstruction of the flow of positive energy leads to more negative feelings.
When we're filled with negative emotion, it seems like a punishment. This isn't its purpose, though. Negative emotion is intended to be a warning, telling us it's time to change what we're focusing on--if we want to feel good again.
In the course of writing this article, I got to test out my ideas. My chiropractor had requested authorization from my health insurance company for treatments. As days went by without a response from them, I got increasingly angry, with thoughts like these: "They're a terrible company." "I pay them huge sums of money, and this is what I get in return." "The state of health care in this country is a disgrace." "My condition is going to get worse and worse."
I told myself that thoughts like these weren't going to get me the results I wanted, but they seemed irresistible.
People get stuck in the quicksand of negativity not because they like feeling bad, but because at first it seems to feel good. My anger at the insurance company felt briefly invigorating. Anger does create a rush of energy. Adrenaline races through the blood stream to invigorate us for battle; we feel righteous and justified. Feeling sorry for ourselves is a form of self-nurturance, as in, "You poor thing; no one loves you. I love you." Making others wrong allows us to be right, which also seems to feel good.
However, these feelings are like the seemingly good feelings that come from any addictive substance. Although they imitate the positive emotions that result from being connected to source energy, they don't last long, and they're usually followed by a letdown feeling.
In time, negative emotions become habits ("I always get angry [depressed, irritated] when. . . .") It may seem that there's no other way to respond to a situation that automatically triggers a negative reaction.
The more habitual negative reactions become, the more disconnected one becomes from the universal stream of source energy, and the more difficult it is to generate positive vibrations. All it takes, though, is awareness and focused thought to restore a state of well-being.
Sometimes people think the best way to eliminate negative thoughts is to wrestle them to the ground and beat them into oblivion. My experience, though, is that this focuses one's attention on negativity and creates more of the same.
I prefer to at least temporarily withdraw attention from a negative situation. One way to do this is to deliberately think positive thoughts. Remember happy experiences with special attention to recreating how you felt while experiencing them. If you were in a beautiful place, recall the beauty.
You can also make a list of things for which you're grateful. Make this list as long as possible.
You can also distract yourself by doing something you enjoy. Listen to your favorite music; read an absorbing book. Take a walk or go for a swim.
Using the above methods on a regular basis gives you a break from negativity so that when you do return to a situation that needs handling, you'll feel refreshed and able to look at it with more positive eyes. It also will infuse more positive energy into your being.
I dealt with my own persistent negativity over my irresponsible insurance company by listening to a motivational tape. Halfway through I said to myself, "The chiropractor's office will call between three and four this afternoon." At 3:15 I got a call that the treatments had been approved.
The more positive your general outlook is, the more you'll notice negative lapses as they occur instead of allowing them to multiply and take over.
I may still curse at the person who cuts me off in traffic, but often, once the crisis is over, I laugh at myself and get back into a relaxed mode. If someone criticizes me, I remind myself to look at the content of the criticism instead of turning it into an indictment of my being and right to exist. Impatience is probably my greatest challenge, but I do my best to control a trigger tongue, while reminding myself, that I, too, have been slow to grasp certain things--but I don't let that awareness become the occasion for a self-mutilation session.
Shifting to a positive orientation is a step-by-step, day-by-day, and sometimes minute-by-minute process. It's not complicated, though; all that's necessary is to ask, "How do I feel right now?"
In my counseling practice I urge clients to read this statement on a daily basis while they're taking essences. You may wish to do the same.
Any flower or other essence, if it's the appropriate one for you, can have an uplifting effect. Some are specifically intended for assisting a shift to positive vibrations.
When you experience a physical or emotional trauma, you almost automatically go into a state of resistance against feelings of pain and sometimes terror. Rescue Remedy helps to alleviate those feelings, helping to restore the being to energetic balance. I have several bottles placed in strategic areas (car, bag, house, etc.)
Zinnia (FES) helps those who are over-serious and lack humor to awaken the playful, joyous child within; while another FES flower essence, Borage, helps relieve depression, discouragement, and a heavy-hearted feeling. It's especially useful for giving confidence and courage when one is facing challenges.
Three Wild Earth Animal Essences capture the spirit of lightheartedness. Otter is a playful spirit with full appreciation that life is a game to be enjoyed. Hummingbird helps us to focus on the joyous, magical nature of physical existence, and Dolphin teaches us to flow naturally with our emotions, thus ensuring that we don't get stuck in negativity.
Crystals, too, help to restore us to vibrational balance. Again, while, the crystals most appropriate for your particular needs will be most helpful, the following crystals have general application:
One of the qualities of Herkimer diamonds, a brilliant form of clear quartz, is their ability to raise human energy levels. They're recommended whenever you need more cheer in your life.
Amber, Golden Topaz, and Citrine are three crystals with cheering golden energy. Amber, known as the happy stone (it's actually fossilized tree resin), helps to relieve depression. Citrine, by aiding us in processing life experiences, helps us to discard all that doesn't enhance our happiness. Golden Topaz helps to balance our energies and adds a quality of inspiration.
Black Tourmaline is very helpful for repelling negative energy, whether external or internal. It's a good stone to wear or carry when you experience any kind of stress.