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The Feng Shui of Emotions

When I first read Feng Shui Made Easy by William Spear (highly recommended), I noticed his emphasis on cleaning, tidying up, and throwing away. Eliminating clutter and removing unnecessary things allows open vibrational pathways that allow good energy to flow into your living or working space.

A funny thing happens to me, though, when I begin to throw things away. They suddenly become unbelievably valuable and cherished.

I get especially attached to books. I'm not saying how many I have, but I do have one group entitled "Books I have never read and probably will never read-but I might." I don't want to give these books away because I fear the universe might decide I'm wasteful and not let me have any more.

Hold On and It Escapes

My fearful version of the universe sounds a lot like a mother who chastises a wasteful or careless, and I know it doesn't work this way. When I think of the law of attraction, I think of a cat. Have you ever tried to hold onto a cat who had other plans? That animal was gone, and it may have not come back for a while. Books, money, and other material objects, aren't as lively as cats, but the more one tries to hold on to them, the more rapidly they disappear-because holding on gives the universe the message that you don't expect what you release to be replenished.

This often seems unfair. If I say or think or feel (especially feel) "I don't have enough (money, good health, time), I think I'm saying, "Give me more." Vibrational energy, though, reads neither lips nor minds. It makes no distinction between what you want and what you don't want. It reads your message as "don't have" and gives you more of that.

In line with that law, I convinced myself that books would always be abundant in my life and parted with ten bags of never-read books. Although I suffered a little, I comforted myself with the pleasure of being able to walk in the room designated library without tripping over unsteady heaps of volumes. I enjoyed seeing how much room the shelves now held for new books.

Clearing Out Negative Emotions

The fear of scarcity can keep us from removing physical clutter from our lives. Scarcity fears can also keep us in situations we don't like.

We may feel that unless we stay where we are, the world can be a dangerous place. We might stay at jobs we don't like because we believe there's a scarcity of good jobs out there and not enough success to go around. We could decide that it's better to stay in a relationship that's less than ideal because a perfect lover is impossible to find.

Other emotions connect to scarcity. If someone got more than me, I can blame them for the scarcity in my life. Am I supposed to like that person? I can really make resentment stick by saying that giving it up would mean I didn't have enough self-respect to recognize that I didn't deserve the treatment other people or the world gave me. And on the subject of self-respect, we can blame our lack of it on others who didn't give us enough respect.

Anger and hatred can glue themselves to us through similar thought patterns. These emotions also send out the message: "Not enough to go around and I didn't get (don't get/will never get) mine."

Good Housekeeping

When we decide to clean up emotional clutter, we aim for the dirt and dust. As in physical cleaning, good emotional housekeeping involves identifying the problem. I need to notice that I'm resentful or angry or afraid before I can do anything about it.

The doing, however, is different. I can't scrub and rub out negative emotions. Once I've noticed I have paralyzing fear, poisonous resentment, or energy-draining anger, I do my best to release them by shifting my attention in more positive directions.

I may divert my attention by doing something I enjoy. I can also look for reasons to feel grateful, even if they seem small. If I can appreciate the small blessings, I make room for bigger ones.

Here, however, we get into a tricky area. We do benefit from a focus on gratitude and appreciation, and it's wise to milk positive moments for all they're worth. Sometimes, though, we milk these moments for more than they're worth.

To return to the cat analogy, appreciation is petting a cat and enjoying the softness of its fur and the vibration of its purring. Trying to keep that cat on your lap to prolong your pleasure is holding on to a moment that's lost its power to please. It's saying, "I have to hold onto this happiness because the cat may never return to my lap." Hold onto the animal like that, and you could make this true.

Some people try to hold on to happiness by staying at a party long after it's stopped being fun. Others, after spending a pleasant evening with someone, say "Be my friend" or "Love me forever." The search to stay happy can lead to addiction because something once created pleasure.

When someone seeks a guaranteed source of happiness, he is in essence saying, "I don't trust that this feeling will come again." The attempt to cling to and prolong the life of a positive emotion is the surest way to replace it with negativity.

Sometimes negativity sneaks into the midst of a positive moment. One might think/feel, "This is really good. I like this feeling much better than how I was feeling yesterday, when I really felt awful. What a miserable day that was. . . ." Or you say, "I really like my new job. It's much better than the old one. Do you know what my old boss did to me?"

Going with the Flow

Seth, channeled by the late Jane Roberts said, "When you refute . . . emotions or become terrified of them, you impede the flow of feeling from one moment to the other. You set up dams. Any emotion will change into another if you experience it honestly. Otherwise you clog the natural movement of your entire system."

Feng Shui is about facilitating the flow of energy, and shifting emotional energy is about allowing that natural flow. Three simple steps can facilitate that flow:

  1. When you have a negative emotion, accept it. This means don't hate it or blame yourself for having it.
  2. When you have a negative emotion, don't make a case for why you have it. ("You'd feel this way too if. . . .")
  3. When you're feeling good, know that good feelings are your birthright. They're available to be experienced in abundance. You don't have to wish the one you're feeling now would never end.

When we do this, we are allowing emotions to flow through us. This unblocked movement sweeps away negativity and makes room for the flow of positive feeling. This is psychic housekeeping at its best. This is good Feng Shui.

Vibrational Cleaners

Crystals and vibrational essences help to facilitate the flow of positive energy. While specific ones relate to particular emotions, I suggest here some general assistants.

Crystals

Mental and emotional rigidity can prevent an easy flow, especially when we think we're supposed to feel a certain way. "You should be angry that she got the job you wanted." Green calcite helps to relax these rigid, automatic responses. It is especially helpful when placed on the heart.

Rose quartz, also best placed on the heart, encourages the flow of love.

Since self-esteem is often an underlying factor in negative emotions, citrine can help. It is traditionally placed on the navel.

Essences

Rock Water (Bach) is the counterpart of green calcite in that it helps to release rigidity.

Chicory (Bach) helps to ease the neediness that makes one insist that other people behave in a certain way so that one can be happy.

Animals in general tend to be much more in the natural flow. If the sight of a hawk or eagle flying thrills you or the leap of a dolphin makes your heart leap, choose one of the related Wild Earth Animal Essences. The Frog essence is particularly connected to the flow of emotions.